./wp-json/wp/v2/article/120238/n/wp-json/wp/v2/article/120238/n/wp-json/wp/v2/article/120238/n/wp-json/wp/v2/article/120238/nTraditionally, Rajasthani marriages are deeply regressive for women, who are required to wear long veils after their weddings and to live under multiple restrictions from all of their family members, including their husbands. Meghwanshi/wp-json/wp/v2/article/120238/u2019s father, Bhanwar, wanted to break away from this system for his daughter altogether. /wp-json/wp/v2/article/120238/n/wp-json/wp/v2/article/120238/n/wp-json/wp/v2/article/120238/n/wp-json/wp/v2/article/120238/n
/wp-json/wp/v2/article/120238/u201cWhen we were thinking about how we would like to perform the ceremony, I approached a Buddhist monk to perform the wedding, and he shared a letter that Babasaheb Ambedkar had written on the similar dilemma,/wp-json/wp/v2/article/120238/u201d says the older Meghwanshi. In the letter, Ambedkar talked about his own wedding with his wife, Savita Ambedkar. /wp-json/wp/v2/article/120238/u201cThe monk asked me if we can draw inspiration from it,/wp-json/wp/v2/article/120238/u201d said Bhanwar. He adds, /wp-json/wp/v2/article/120238/u201cI readily agreed because both our family and Krishna/wp-json/wp/v2/article/120238/u2019s family believe in the Ambedkarite movement deeply. It not only challenges the traditional Hindu wedding customs and the regressive Buddhist customs but also is more constitutional and dignified for all,/wp-json/wp/v2/article/120238/u201d/wp-json/wp/v2/article/120238/n/wp-json/wp/v2/article/120238/n/wp-json/wp/v2/article/120238/n/wp-json/wp/v2/article/120238/n
The ceremony brought people from diverse religions and cultures together in the village in a way that had never been seen before. No gaudy jewelry or wads of cash were on display as is customary in Indian weddings. Instead, people blessed the couple with potted plants and books. Kamayani, who had officiated Sulochana and Sunil/wp-json/wp/v2/article/120238/u2019s wedding, also anchored this ceremony and supported the couple through it. /wp-json/wp/v2/article/120238/n/wp-json/wp/v2/article/120238/n/wp-json/wp/v2/article/120238/n/wp-json/wp/v2/article/120238/n
As an advisor to the Jan Jagran Shakti Sangathan, Kamayani ran the youth center that Sunil and Sulochana had attended in the obscure town of Araria. There she started conversations around gender equality, sexuality, freedom, and independence from regressive societal structures with young people who had a traditional upbringing. Years of efforts by her and a few others have encouraged young people to gain agency and the courage to voice their own opinions and choose their own partners so they can break free from the shackles of caste, class, and religion. Her pioneering efforts have helped young people to develop an understanding of choice./wp-json/wp/v2/article/120238/n/wp-json/wp/v2/article/120238/n/wp-json/wp/v2/article/120238/n/wp-json/wp/v2/article/120238/n
/wp-json/wp/v2/article/120238/u201cIf we see rituals as a stand-alone phenomenon, then we can say that [they] don/wp-json/wp/v2/article/120238/u2019t impact anything but the day of the wedding,/wp-json/wp/v2/article/120238/u201d says Kamayani. But, she explains, /wp-json/wp/v2/article/120238/u201cRituals communicate what the society/wp-json/wp/v2/article/120238/u2019s and a religious group/wp-json/wp/v2/article/120238/u2019s belief system is, so if we talk about kanyadaan [giving away one/wp-json/wp/v2/article/120238/u2019s daughter in the Hindu custom], it fundamentally means that the woman is [the] property of a man and /wp-json/wp/v2/article/120238/u2026 the property rights are being transferred from the father to the groom./wp-json/wp/v2/article/120238/u201d Forgoing such a ritual, then, becomes a political statement on women/wp-json/wp/v2/article/120238/u2019s equality. /wp-json/wp/v2/article/120238/n/wp-json/wp/v2/article/120238/n/wp-json/wp/v2/article/120238/n/wp-json/wp/v2/article/120238/nIn many ways, the high-profile Ambani wedding has perpetuated the casteist and gendered rituals of Hindu marriage traditions. Before the kanyadaan ceremony during Anant Ambani/wp-json/wp/v2/article/120238/u2019s wedding, his mother, Neeta, took to the stage and sugarcoated it as a /wp-json/wp/v2/article/120238/u201cnoble act/wp-json/wp/v2/article/120238/u201d wherein one family welcomes a daughter while the other welcomes a son./wp-json/wp/v2/article/120238/n/wp-json/wp/v2/article/120238/n/wp-json/wp/v2/article/120238/n/wp-json/wp/v2/article/120238/nFor Kamayani, caste and gender hierarchies are unimportant in the context of bringing two people together. The idea is not to completely abandon the rituals that may be specific to a culture or geography but to eliminate the patriarchal, casteist, or misogynistic aspects of marriage to be in line with equality and mutual respect./wp-json/wp/v2/article/120238/n/wp-json/wp/v2/article/120238/n/wp-json/wp/v2/article/120238/n/wp-json/wp/v2/article/120238/n
/wp-json/wp/v2/article/120238/u201cWe don/wp-json/wp/v2/article/120238/u2019t want to create a monolithic idea of a marriage,/wp-json/wp/v2/article/120238/u201d adds Kamayani. Rather, she hopes to /wp-json/wp/v2/article/120238/u201cenhance the multiplicity of cultures./wp-json/wp/v2/article/120238/u201d/wp-json/wp/v2/article/120238/n/wp-json/wp/v2/article/120238/n/wp-json/wp/v2/article/120238/n/wp-json/wp/v2/article/120238/n
For Sunil/wp-json/wp/v2/article/120238/u2019s father, Deepnaranyan, those who believe in Brahmanic weddings may criticize him for having his children choose how to marry, but he says he stands with his children. He reasons that Hindu marriages are designed to put heavy financial pressure on families and to appease Brahmins, the highest caste. /wp-json/wp/v2/article/120238/u201cWe will not do it anymore. We can pray to our gods ourselves, and no Brahmin can tell us that our wedding is flawed just because we are not pandering to them,/wp-json/wp/v2/article/120238/u201d he adds./wp-json/wp/v2/article/120238/n/wp-json/wp/v2/article/120238/n/wp-json/wp/v2/article/120238/n/wp-json/wp/v2/article/120238/n
Mithun and Krischam, a couple who also hails from Araria, had a simple intercaste wedding in a temple where they exchanged only garlands and had the temple priest officiate their wedding. Mithun notes that people are superstitious and disregard different ways to perform a wedding. Even if they do not understand the rituals, they adhere to them because they are familiar and don/wp-json/wp/v2/article/120238/u2019t want to break tradition. In his opinion, they should not criticize those who think differently and should try to co-exist with one another. /wp-json/wp/v2/article/120238/n/wp-json/wp/v2/article/120238/n/wp-json/wp/v2/article/120238/n/wp-json/wp/v2/article/120238/n
/wp-json/wp/v2/article/120238/u201cEducation makes one aware of the meaning of various rituals and their casteist and gendered meaning,/wp-json/wp/v2/article/120238/u201d he says. /wp-json/wp/v2/article/120238/u201cOne would be able to respect their partner and account for their equality in society,/wp-json/wp/v2/article/120238/u201d shares Mithun, who is currently working and supporting his partner. In an example of how the couple are living their values of equality, Krischam supported Mithun when he was studying before he got a government job./wp-json/wp/v2/article/120238/n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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